The unrelenting desire for MORE and why it sometimes doesn't happen
MICHELLE KAUBLE
OCTOBER 7, 2022
“Let Go”
“Let Go and let God”
“Be free to be you!”
“Go after what You want!”
Those little tropes are shared all over the ‘gram, Facebook, and your aunt’s front hallway in the form of signs purchased at Hobby Lobby. If only it were that simple.
When people ask me why I am so passionate about working with children, even young children, freedom and inhibition are one of the first things I will pull from the “I love kids” registry in my mind. I am truly in awe of the way toddlers through teenagers fight for the right to have command of their life and how they can escape the confines of adult life to do silly things. They hardly ever stand in their own way.
As adults, we have to mind ourselves, guide ourselves, and protect ourselves. It is our greatest duty and highest command to get ahead in this life. Culture, Manners, and Companionship are three of our wish-granting fairies that change our natural colors, tame our desires, and run our operating systems. They form such a strong team that many times they are so bound together it’s hardly a thought about which one is holding the wheel at any given time. Just in case your image search in your head is bringing up Disney fairies, these are not them. They have wings and dresses, but jagged edges and paralyzing patterns don’t make them so cute.
Think about one of your closest friends who is constantly putting his or herself last and denying the desires or natural tendencies in order to please someone, or something, or to keep everything they or wants. The psychology of how the culture we were born into is so implicit, your friend may not even notice these transparent “rules”. If your friend is male, there are baked-in manners and guides to behavior, natural fears that take root so quickly, they can’t help but to fold and bend over and over. If your friend is female, there is the desire to have protection, to mate, to fulfill not only basic needs but all the way to self-actualization and a hunger to get there. A menu of manners and societal expectations baked in. They can remember what it was like at one time to fight for what truly made them happy, but when we are disappointed, shut out, oppressed, or crushed, we learn to listen. But to the wrong voice.
